With the holiday season in full throttle, you may be hosting a gathering or a guest caring for an elderly loved one. We have practical tips to ensure that your  family member will be safe, comfortable, and included in the fun, while you enjoy an stress-free and meaningful holiday.

Creating Safe Spaces: Keep in mind that the sudden buzz of activity may be a bit too much for many seniors, especially those struggling with hearing loss, vision impairment, dementia or Alzheimer’s. Scan the area early in the day for a low-noise respite space in case it’s needed. This can reduce your loved one’s stress and encourage smaller conversations. Check in with them periodically to make sure they’re comfortable and be sure to offer a specific alternate location with the inquiry so they know there are other seating options available.

Helping with Recognition: Gentle Introductions for Low Vision or Memory Challenges
If aging family members have low vision or memory challenges, warmly reintroducing oneself can make them feel more at ease. To reduce any discomfort:
-Encourage everyone to say their name when greeting an elderly family member. For example, “Hi, Great Aunt Jane, it’s John. It’s so nice to see you!”
-Remind younger family members to be patient and kind if their name or relationship needs repeating. This small gesture fosters comfort, inclusion, and connection.

Making Conversations Accessible: Seating Tips for Hearing Loss
A noisy room can make it difficult for anyone to follow the conversation, especially elders with hearing impairments.
Here’s how to set your loved one up for success:
-Seat them at the center of the table or next to someone with a clear and familiar speaking voice.
-Face them away from noisy areas (e.g., the kitchen or TV) to reduce background noise interference.
-If your family is open to it, consider a conversation break in which everyone speaks one at a time, sharing stories or gratitude, to ensure each member can engage meaningfully.

Keeping Elders Cozy: Temperature Control Tips
Elders tend to feel chilly even when the room is comfortable for others. Here’s how to keep them warm without turning your home into the Sahara:
-Layered clothing: Encourage aging family members to wear light layers that can be adjusted easily.
-Blankets or shawls: Have a cozy throw on hand near their chair. Inexpensive throws may even add to the decor, like this one from Eddie Bauer.
-Warm drinks: Offer hot cider or tea, which can provide both warmth and comfort.

Vision and Fall Prevention, Chairs and Toilet
Good lighting is essential for elders with low vision. Here are some ways to make your home safer:
-Keep the house well-lit, especially in hallways and bathrooms.
-Use nightlights and motion-sensor lights in frequently used areas to add extra safety.
-Remove any trip hazards, such as small furniture or pets underfoot. Clear paths reduce the chance of a loved one stumbling or falling.
-Secure ground coverings: Area rugs are also tripping hazards. If removing them isn’t an option, use double-stick rug grippers to keep them in place.
–Consider a Couch Cane: This tool can help your loved one stand up easily. It’s useful for future visits or makes a thoughtful gift for their own home.
-Borrow or purchase a raised toilet seat: This small addition can make a big difference in your loved one’s comfort, safety, and independence.
Thoughtful touches like these show that you not only want your loved one present, but that you’ve taken steps to ensure their visit is comfortable and seamless.

Navigating Dietary Needs
If your elder has diabetes, high blood pressure, dietary restrictions or food sensitivities, you can still make the meal enjoyable for everyone:
-Include side dishes that meet their dietary needs: whether its roasted vegetables, whole grains, or low-sodium options, choose a few dishes that everyone can enjoy.
–Label dishes and clearly mark contents: Use food labels to flag noteworthy ingredients and identify what’s gluten-free, low-sugar, or allergen-friendly. 
-Don’t skip dessert: Make sure there’s at least one treat they can enjoy—like fruit salad or a sugar-free pie.

New Traditions for All Ages: Bridging Generations at the Table
Creating traditions that include both elders and younger generations can foster connection and meaning. Here are a few ideas:
-Story Circle: Have everyone share a favorite holiday memory or family story. Give your elder the honor of starting. This will not only make them feel valued but will  bring family history to life.
–Intergenerational Recipe Exchange: Ask your elder to teach a grandchild or young family member a favorite family recipe. Fostering a shared experience in the kitchen strengthens bonds and creates memories. Put them together for a new family heirloom.
–Gratitude Chain: Set up a craft table where guests of all ages can write something they’re grateful for on paper strips. Connect them into a “gratitude chain” to display at the dinner table.

Plan for Simple Moments: Less is Often More: 
Families tend to over-plan their time together, but the most meaningful memories are often made during quiet moments of conversation and connection. Instead of filling every minute with activities, schedule plenty of downtime so everyone can unwind and just “be” together.
Sometimes sitting around with a cup of coffee, catching up, and enjoying each other’s presence is the most nourishing part of the day. Build in flexibility to allow time for spontaneous connections to bloom.

Final Thoughts
Hosting the d\holidays with elderly family members doesn’t have to be stressful. With a bit of planning, you can create a warm and safe environment where everyone—from the youngest to the oldest—feels seen, heard, and cherished. Remember, the most important thing is to focus on is connection and shared moments, leaving everyone emotionally nourished and grateful long after the holidays are over.